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[经典翻译] (经典翻译)跟别人交谈时你是否会犯这种一般的错误?

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发表于 2012-6-5 19:06:24 | 显示全部楼层 |阅读模式
Do You Make These Common Mistakes When Talking to People?
跟别人交谈时你是否会犯这种一般的错误?

by Peter Murphy

Many moons ago. Talking to people was something I avoided
where possible.
很久之前,跟别人交谈是我尽可能避免是事情

At the time, I did not know I was unconsciously setting
myself up for failure.
那个时候,我不知道我没意识地把自己推往失败的陷阱。
I kept making the same mistakes
without even noticing what I was doing wrong.
我不断的犯同样的错误,甚至还不知道自己哪里做错了。
You may be doing the same thing.
你可能正在做着同样的事情。
Here are three common mistakes together with tips on how to
deal with them:
这里是三个一般的错误,还有处理它们的提示。

1. Judging Your Performance Against Unrealistic Standards
用不实际的标准评定你自己的表现。
Be honest with yourself.
对自己要诚实。
Accept that where you are now in terms of your
接受这个现实,就交流技巧而言,
communication skills is only your starting point - not your
finishing point.
现在你的水平只是你的起点--而不是你的终点。
And assess your performance and your progress against your
typical level of effectiveness.
根据你的典型交流水平评估你的表现和进步,
Not against some desired
state of perfection or ultimate goal.
而不是根据你对完美的状态或终极目标来(评估)。
Goals are very important as a destination to aim for but do
(预设的)目标是非常重要的目的地,但
not use long term goals as a standard to judge your current
不要用长期目标来作为评判你现在的表现的标准,
performance against - that is a recipe for disillusionment
and massive frustration.
相反,这只是使你胡思乱想和极大的沮丧的方法。
I know. Because I tried it!
我清楚的。因为我曾经试过这样子!


2. The Failure To Learn Each Day
不能每天都去学习。

As people we can be lazy. This means that a lack of follow
作为一个人我们会懒惰。这意味着我们对目标不够坚持(这件事)
through on our goals can go unnoticed. After all we can
可能会被忽略。毕竟我们可以
always catch up some other day.
用另外一天来弥补这一天的懒惰。

This attitude will kill your dreams faster than you can
spell failure.
这个态度会扼杀你的梦想--比你失败的速度更快

When I started to make massive improvements in how I
related to people I dedicated myself to becoming excellent.
当我开始在与人联系这件事上出现巨大进步时,我全身心地使自己变得优秀。
Once I had proven strategies the rest was easy. I just
一旦我拥有了经过验证的策略,其它东西就变得简单了。我只是
applied the material each day. I improved each day because
每天应用材料而已。我每天都在进步,因为
I made it a priority and because I committed to applying the material.
我将这件事当成头等大事。同时,因为我致力于应用材料。


Now...
现在
I also know people who learned the same peak performance
strategies I learned.
我也认识了一些与我学习同样的顶级表现策略的人。
Today they are no farther ahead than
they were years ago.
他们对比很久以前的自己并没有明显进步。
How did they pull that off?
他们怎么没有成功呢?
By putting it off until another day and by neglecting to
就是通过推迟每天的努力到下一天,还有忘记去
use what they had learned. Implementation is crucial.
用他们学过的东西。执行力至关重要。
If you do this your progress is a certainty.
如果你做到了这些东西,你的进步就是必然的。

3. Attempting To Be Original
(总是)尝试原创
Many years ago I put myself under huge pressure by
expecting myself to be original with each person I met.
多年前,我给自己巨大的压力,希望自己能够在每个我遇到的人面前都显得有原创性。

This is a sure-fire strategy for failure and a great way to
get stressed out for no reason.
这是一个(令你)失败的万能的策略,同时使你毫无理由地筋疲力尽,
Guess what I later discovered?
猜猜我后来发现了什么?
There is no need to be original.
你不需要具原创性。
You can have the same conversation all day long with different people and nobody
will suspect a thing!
你可以一整天都用同样的内容跟不同的人交谈,而没有人会有一丁点儿怀疑。
People are happy to talk about mundane topics because there
is no effort involved.
人们喜欢谈论平凡的话题,因为这样他们不需要费脑筋。
I have lived or worked in several countries including
Ireland, England, Germany, Holland, Spain and the U.S.
我曾经在几个国家居住或工作过,包括爱尔兰、英格兰、德国、荷兰、西班牙和美国。
And everywhere I have been people are happy to talk all day
about:
而且,我去过的所有地方里,人们都乐意去谈一整天这样的事情:
- the weather
天气
- their children
他们的孩子
- the new movie
新电影
- the family pet
家里的宠物
- the boss
老板
- the traffic
交通

You get the idea!
你得到灵感啦!


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发表于 2012-6-6 07:48:01 来自手机 | 显示全部楼层
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